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Does Facebook Make Mean Girls, Meaner?

in Family on 01/05/12

I am the last great resister.  Well, at least according to my oldest slightly dramatic completely normal daughter.  Up until this week I have flat out refused to allow my almost 13 year old to “get” facebook.  Even as the compliments were thrown at me: “Please Best Mom in the world!”  “You are AWESOME”  “You so don’t look 40 Mom”.  (Okay that last one might have helped, that and she turns 13 this week so facebook thinks the kid is old enough to have an account)

So why am I anti- facebook for my kids when I boast 3600 Facebook friends, love them all and am a tad addicted to the site? 

I think it’s kind of evil!  

It breeds insecurity. 

Creates opportunities for jealousy.  You can quickly feel left out, left behind and forgotten. 

Discourages true communication between peers. 

It makes mean girls….meaner?  You know that girl in High School who was always Look at me!  Look at me! (because they were the prettiest, the smartest, have the most stuff and were clearly having more fun then you?  Facebook gives them a chance to virtually rub it in your face, crow it from….well their status updates.  All. The. Time. )  I know some of these unthinking kinda obnoxious peeps are exaggerating or just being braggy and boastful, but will my 13 year old daughter see this pathetic cry for attention for what it is? 

If I continue to be a hold out (a serious contradiction for a social media addict) what kind of message is that?  Do as I say, not as I do?  I am so not that Mama.  Besides, she is truly one of the last “non-facebookers” in grade 7.  Am I hurting her socially?  Is this holding her back?  Am I a big fat meanie? 

Facebook is supposed to help my daughter stay in touch with her girlfriends…uh maybe even some boys, but what if instead it makes her jealous, anxious, stressed and sad.  What if those mean girls she has encountered in real life take a stab at her in cyberspace?

I know I can’t protect her forever, but gee, like life isn’t hard enough already.  Sigh.  This Mom thing doesn’t get any easier does it. 

Decision made.  I caved.  Rules were set, warnings were given.  Mean girls watch out cause this social media Mama has her eye on you!

Wish us much luck…it’s going to be an interesting ride.

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    Comments

    1. Lee-Ann says

      December 15, 2012 at 9:25 pm

      My daughter is 18 and I have seen so many negative things “nice girls” say on Facebook I am appalled. It’s not just the mean girls who feel that saying horrible things on social media is ok. My daughter allows me access to her account – but she’s the one who tells me what’s going on. I wish more parents monitored their children’s online activity.

    2. Teresa says

      September 27, 2012 at 12:14 am

      ahh Steph you are such a good mom! I just let meg get it 2 days ago, she just turned 13. Rules are set and you better believe I will be monitoring… Hugs.

    3. Xazmin says

      January 10, 2012 at 12:44 am

      I don’t think you’re a big meanie. I was a hold-out too. I finally let my son, but the rule is, I have his password, and can access at any time if I so choose. I also have the authority to de-friend any of his friends at any time, on his behalf. Only had to do that once – and it was a perpetually F-bomb dropping punk.

      When he first got on I was paranoid and was checking his stuff all the time. But I realized that I had a good kid, with good friends and that I didn’t need to worry. I know it is different with girls though, and so far my 11 year old daughter says she thinks FB is dumb and doesn’t ever want to get one. I doubt this opinion will stick, but I’m enjoying it for now!

    4. Augmented Gem says

      January 7, 2012 at 10:25 pm

      I’ve been out of the Facebook loop for 2 years. I found it to be a little too ‘highschool’. I know of people who let their kids join at an even earlier age and am glad you hung in there as long as you did. I think 13 is a good age to join, but be watchful like you intend, cause there’s some stuff you wouldn’t want your girl to find out about on social media. People, both young and old, can be mean – and social media can amplify it.

    5. Busy Bee Suz says

      January 7, 2012 at 3:17 pm

      It really is a scary step!!! It is good you set guidelines and she knows you care about her heart in this situation. Ughhh…facebook can be hurtful for 44 year olds too. 🙂

    6. Fresh Local and Best says

      January 6, 2012 at 2:18 pm

      This is a great post. Facebook is a virtual high school with no boundaries. I personally would allow her a page but not without significant limitations: amount of time spent and monitoring.

    7. Kaci says

      January 6, 2012 at 12:02 pm

      Oh man, I have no idea what I would do. I love FB just cause I miss my family so much being states away and I connect that way but I don’t know what I would do if my daughter was old enough and wanted it too. Ugh. Good luck with everything! XO

    8. Life with Kaishon says

      January 6, 2012 at 6:05 am

      It is scary, isn’t it? Our babies online. I think she will do great : )

    9. Crazy Shenanigans-JMO says

      January 6, 2012 at 1:18 am

      I think for that age it does bread mean girls. That’s such a young age for people to be sharing everything.

    10. Nikki says

      January 6, 2012 at 1:16 am

      One of my first grade students shared during morning meeting that for Christmas she got a Facebook account. She is 6. Really? What happened to Barbie dolls and Easy Bake Ovens???

      My daughter is 15 and she hasn’t asked for one
      (yet) and I am happy about that.

    11. Gigi says

      January 6, 2012 at 12:27 am

      No, sweets, this Mom thing does NOT get any easier – that I can promise. Good luck and monitor that (and any other online) accounts – but then, I know you will.

    12. ChiTown Girl says

      January 5, 2012 at 11:12 pm

      I’m so with you. I wouldn’t let me son join, either, at that age. But, his best friend set up an acct for him without our permission, and I absolutely blew my stack!!! My first reaction was for him to immediately delete it. I then called his father, thinking maybe he’d talk me down from the ledge. Wrong! He was even more upset than I was! After we both calmed down, we decided that as long as we had his password and could monitor what was going on, he could have it. Quite frankly, I’m on his FB 10 times more than he is! I “stalk” his friends pages, just to see what they’re up to, which I know drives him crazy, but TOO BAD! He almost NEVER goes on FB. Maybe it’s because he knows I check it. I don’t know, and I don’t care, I’m just glad he’s not addicted like so many others I know, including many ADULTS I know!

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